I will let the words of others speak for me on this matter, since I found a couple pieces that do a better job than I can right now. However, before I do that, it is worth pointing out that my stance on this issue has been for some time that while personally against abortion in general, I think any abortion legislation should defer to the wisdom and knowledge of the mother and her physician. They are the people closest to the situation and most aware of the implications of the choices the woman faces. Further, the visions of wild-eyed lunatics in scrubs conspiring with cackling witches in patient gowns to curb stomp babies have long been the hobgoblins of right-wing ideologues. They for some reason want nothing more than to insert the government into the moral dilemmas faced by the actual women who actually consider terminating the pregnancy after the first and, god forbid, second trimesters.
I held that stance before there was any news about the Virginia and New York laws that good-faith rhetoricians like our fine president say legalize infanticide. And I didn’t bother to read much about these laws because I assumed that my sense of the issue would hold true. I assumed that these laws may or may not have been good ideas, but almost certainly attempted to give women facing impossible choices the flexibility to navigate a tragedy in a way that is both safe and as comforting as possible for them. I assumed the women for whom these laws were written are overwhelmingly women who have been buying baby clothes for 20 weeks and setting up maternity leaves with their places of business until they start to bleed unexpectedly or they get some bad news after a round of tests. Turns out, after some reading, I was almost spot on.
I held that stance and posted on it before my family faced our own choices that relate to this matter. Had the right-wing ideologues who talk a big game about “infanticide” had their way, our devastating moral dilemma would have become an unspeakable tragedy. I get that these statements are a little cryptic, and perhaps sometime soon or sometime in the distant future I will post more about this. I think this is a community - despite all the craziness on here and despite the existence of bluetools and the rampant blood lust on here for exterminating SJSU sports - that is often a supportive and open-minded group in the face of sincerity and sadness. At the same time, the rage the pumps through my veins right now when thinking about this issue is a rage that I’ve never felt before. So until that rage turns to sadness, and that sadness subsides a bit to the point where it can be the subject of thoughtful contemplation, I will likely be mute or restrained on this issue for some time.
But I encourage everyone to read a few words on the matter that align both with my long-held stance and with my personal experience. And I encourage them to read it with an open heart, and to read it with a little empathy.