No apologies necessary. I do get pithy and catty from time to time. Forgive me.
The make your own damn cake line speaks to the free exercise clause. The talent required to make such a cake only exemplifies what is being demanded. Had a cake already been made and was for sale but the gay couple was barred from purchasing it because they were gay that’s clearly different than having to create something that does not yet exist. Though I would stereotypically expect a gay wedding to have a bit better taste, would a fundamentalist Christian rock band be unable to decline a booking at a gay wedding?