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Troy,

I am deeply saddened to learn of your father's untimely passing. Needless to say, there are many that were graced with his always intelligent, always insightful, point of view. Having caught word of this horrible news in the other arenas, I could not go without giving you and your family my sincere condolences, along with best regards for the future ahead.

I've never met your father but I didn't need to know him to tell you he was a brillant man. A man that should be the standard bearer for how a person should express his outlook on the world, take care of his loved ones, and needlessly sacrifice when his country needs him. I can be sure that your family will be just fine with half of the character this person surely passed on to you and your sister through pure association alone.

Anyone that came to read this message board (or others) knew to look to your father as a pillar of the conversation and had nothing but respect for him....a respect that he kept for everyone else that he interacted with. Over the course of my years on the boards I always looked to his point of view with unwaivering confidence and as a source that was consistently fair, funny and a commodity for quality in a wild west-qese pool of speculation, hearsay, and flat-out hyperbole. I would have been honored to have called him father and you should always know the esteem that the man kept from the likes of hardcore college football fans to the plainest of casual readers of the boards he frequented.

No one could touch the man's integrity and that set him apart instantly in anything he wrote. I looked up to the man for years.

For reasons unimportant to this thread, I haven't taken up residence in this particular community...but I know that 7,430+ posts will never be enough for anyone here. Aside from condolences, I've come to realize that the only real thing I have to offer you is my first post in this, one of his most prominent forums. I hope you find my first post here as an acceptable tribute and I will never post another message in this forum again (my count will remain at "1") as a token of my admiration for someone I would feel lucky to have in an American armed service, a member of my own family, or simply as a peer on the internet....someone that I've never met but enriched our lives effortlessly through words put to paper.

My best to you and yours. I know you'll be just fine.

-LTFF

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Hello everyone. I am coastie's son Troy. I am sorry to tell you that my Dad Tim passed away yesterday from a heart attack. I wanted to post here because I knew he was on here for years and knew and talked with alot of you and I knew he'd want me to tell all of you. If you'd like to send any condolences to my Mom Terrie her email is chandler2220@aol.com or you can email me at chandlertroy@gmail.com and I can pass them along. I want to say thanks in advance in case I'm unable to later. I'll also come back and check this thread.

The memorial service will be this sunday the 10th at 11:00 am at The Coos Bay Chapel in Coos Bay, Oregon. The website is http://www.coosbayfh.com/ which has the address if anyone wants to send flowers or anything.

Again, I'm sorry to tell all of you like this but it's the only way I knew how. My Dad really enjoyed this forum. I remember him just recently showing me a thread where someone was picking movie characters for forum members and he picked Buzz Lightyear for my Dad. He got a big kick out of that.

Thank you.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Tim. My condolences to you and the Chandler family. Although I haven't been here very long, your father had made an immediate impression on me for being a quality poster, fan, and person. He will be missed.

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Made this for you Coastie.

sorry for your dad not being here. he sounded like a great man.

Nice job Hal....of all the ones you've made, that's probably my favorite.

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Coastie was for my money the best of all the posters here. A man among boys who was kind to everyone, but bowed to no-one. As good as it gets!

One of life's most painful moments comes when we must admit that we didn't do our homework, that we are not prepared.

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Good hell, I just saw this.

RIP Coastie.

That's horrible news.

Good luck to the family with things.

This is my sentiments too. I don't frequent here often but had been here the last few days and not sure how I missed this.

As soon as I read the thread title, "Sad news. This is Coastie's son..." I knew it could not be good. It is always hard when a loved one passes in what I would call a tragic/unexpected way.

Coastie was what my company calls an A1 person/customer. Someone that deserved to be treated with extra respect and someone we go the extra mile for to make them happy. He deserves and earned that type of treatment. I always enjoyed his wisdom and insight and most especially how he was able to address certain topics with tact but still make his point clear.

My prayers and best wishes to the "Coastie" family and thanks, Troy, for stopping by to let us know so that we could in a small way "pay our respects" instead of him just no longer being here in the community without any idea why.

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You represented your favorite institution and the MW very well..a big salute to you up high in the sky and a big salute to your family as well! RIP Coastie

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104 wins, 19 losses, 2 ties including 3 undefeated seasons: 1966, 1968, 1969     College Football Hall of Fame Inductee, 1999

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Troy here. I'm sorry if this goes on and on but I just read all your posts again and I feel like I have something to say I guess. I wanted to post here because even though it was through a website you still knew my dad and respected him.

It's after midnight and officially 7/5/2012. Exactly one month since my father passed. Is it easier? No. The fact of the matter is I still miss my dad and I would do anything to have him back. Growing up I heard stories about my great-grandfather Roscoe and my great-uncle Art and every story about them ended with "I wish they were alive when you were born" or "I wish they had lived long enough to meet you". And now when I have kids I will have to say the same thing to them about their grandfather.

No one can tell you what will happen when something like this happens. No one will tell you to save voicemails because you will end up treasuring a recording of someone's voice more than anything you own. No one will tell you that the "5 stages of grief" is utter nonsense and you can go through every stage and more numerous times in a day. Let alone how many times you'll go through all of them in a week or a month. No one will tell you that instead of the good, you will focus on the negative/stupid things you said or did to someone you love. Even though that stuff is so insignificant, they wouldn't remember it happening anyway. No one will tell you what you need to do to keep your loved ones from hurting. And all I want to do is help my mom and sister and I'm not sure how.

My dad Tim would have been 54 on July 15. Only 54. I'm 25 and I feel awful thinking this but I have to wonder if I only have 29 years left. 29 years to get married and have children and somehow tell my family everything I want to and need to before I'm gone. 29 years to make an impact like my dad did. He was a sergeant at Shutter Creek Correctional Institute in North Bend, Oregon and despite the stereotypes you see on tv and in movies, even the inmates mourned the loss of my dad. That's how respected he was.

On the day of the service the state sent officers from all around the state to man the prison so that every staff member my dad worked with could make it. The security manager of shutter creek is a member of the Department of Corrections Honor Guard and he is the one who played taps. We had a photo tribute that played and he later said that he was glad he saw it after the service because if he had seen it during the service, he wouldn't have been able to play it and make it through the whole song. And soon I will post the photo tribute video here so all of you can see it too. His coworkers said it was great to see photos of him throughput his life and I'm sure you would all appreciate it too. I'll also post my eulogy. My mom's cousin even asked me for a copy of it. I guess what I said was pretty good.

I'm gonna end it here but before I do I wanna tell a story from the day of my dad's memorial service. I said my eulogy then other people said wonderful things and after taps and the 21 gun salute the service was over. And on the way to the reception I got separated from my mom and sister (the reception hall shared a parking lot with the chapel) because I got bombarded by all my dad's coworkers and former coworkers who came from all over who just wanted to talk to me. Why me instead of my mom or sister? I don't know. My dad and I had a similar personality so maybe that was why. We even laugh the same. But to be honest, I couldn't tell you exactly who I talked to because it was all a blur. But one guy stood out. He was an officer at shutter creek, not much older than me and I guess my eulogy hit him hard becuase he told me with tears in his eyes "I wish I had a relationship with my dad like you did with yours". I just looked at him and said "Is he still alive?" He said "yes" so I just said "Then I think when you get home, you need to call your dad and tell him that" and he was bawling and said "You know, I think I will".

So if you're reading this (and I said this exact same thing in my eulogy) pick up the phone right now and call your parents, siblings, spouse, kids, grandparents, whoever you love. Just call them and tell them that you love them. Because my family found out the hard way that tomorrow is not guaranteed.

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